Im very over protective of my Kitten, is this normal?

Question

Me & My boyfriend have a 10 week old kitten & i love her to pieces, shes my baby.
I trust my boyfriend with her because he knows ill kill him if he ever hurt her. But i don't trust his family AT ALL.
We live with his mum, his 15 year old brother, his 11 year old sister, his 5year old sister & his 4 year old brother.
Pyra (my kitten) is and is probably always gonna be a house cat, & she stays in mine & my boyfriends room.
Mainly because the start of his mothers house makes me feel physically sick & my kitten cat stay at my parents as my mum is really allergic & has really bad asthma attacks even over my hamsters.

Anyway, My boyfriend is abit of a geek. Computer, Xbox, Wii, Massive tv ect so we don't like leaving her alone incase she gets tangled in a wire.

Problem with that is, Me & My boyfriend no longer have a life.
Not that we had one to begin with, but now all we seem to do is sit in the room all day, play with the kitten when shes not sleeping & melt out brains with Computers XD
(i have my laptop)

I can't put her in her carry cage for long periods of time because she gets scared and soils her, poor little thing.

I trusted my bfs mum to take care of Pyra, and she just shoved her in her cage. And when i got her out she'd hurt herself

Then she tried to blame the kitten for the fact her youngest son had done a runner, for the 1000000000000 time and someone had reported her to social services.
TBH I'd have done it myself long ago if i knew i wouldn't get stopped by my bf.

My bf had to go to the doctors & then to a job interview & i had to go with him to take back a dress on saturday.
We left my bfs 11 year old sister to keep an eye on Pyra because she'd been begging to look after her for weeks.
When we got home, the door was locked, my bfs sister had gone to her friends & his mum had gone out not even caring about the kitten.
I got in the house, ran upstairs and found her once again, cramped in her carry cage, with no blanket or anything.

Shes only tiny, runt of the litter, and shes just recovering from a cold.
I really don't want my boyfriends family anywhere near her, but my boyfriend won't let me buy a lock for his door.

He knows how i feel but he just says it will be fine and brushes it off.

Is it normal for me to feel like this? I'm not just being overly protective?
How can i get my bf to understand?

:/

Answer 1

There is nothing wrong with being protective of your animals. You should see me, nobody wants to harm them. I'm like a mama bear and their my cubs. People all treat their animals different so you have to be protective.



Your kitten isn't being treated good now and she's a baby. When she becomes a full grown cat they will just abuse her worse. Please find a new home for her, or MOVE OUT! If you love her like your own child, then you wouldn't let her live with someone who abuses her.



You're living with your boyfriends family. Do you really think he is going to back you up? So far what you wrote about him, he doesn't sound like a responsible daddy to your kitten anyways.



PLEASE DO NOT MAKE HER AN OUTSIDE CAT!

Cat's are domestic animals, they die younger, and other animals and cats will kill them. Living outside is harsh and cruel, make her a hermit of the house. You'll have and love her longer like 15-20 years. My grandma knew a lady that had a cat that lived to her late 20's.

Answer 2

i would do the same for my kittens (ha in fact i did) but my family was a lot more considerate. you have to realize that you need to let go a little though. to constantly be around will cause the kitten to become so attached to you that it will be miserable every time you leave. i would suggest caring for the kitten and when you need to go somewhere put her in the cage. i personally would suggest getting all the wires moved or pinned up to where she wont get caught and leaving her out of the cage. this way she will be able to use the litter box (probably why she goes in the cage cause she has no where to go) and feel safer.



but if you need the cage, i would suggest starting off with crate training. put the kitten in the cage for a little while to begin with like an hour and do this for about a week and then move up to 2 and then 3 hours so she will eventually get more use to being alone in the crate. i would also get her a blanket and maybe a stuffed animal so she wont feel as lonely.



its fine to be protective and i would establish rules with his family so they will know how you feel about it. =] good luck email me if you need any more tips

Answer 3

No you are not being over-protective. This little kitten relies on you for everything. I am so glad to hear that you take that role seriously. Why can you and you b/f not move to an apartment? If you cannot, then sit down and talk to these people, tell them exactly how you want your kitten to be taken care of when you are away. If they do not want to do what you ask, then find someone else to look after kitty. It is unfair to this kitten to keep her locked in a cage. If none of these things are an option, then I have to say, maybe find kitty a new home, it is better than to allow her to be harmed.

Answer 4

Honestly it's ok to be worried about your kitten especially if you feel that the children in his family may be t rough w/ it but it is a cat. Just leave it in the room and don't worry about her getting tangled up in wires, because if she does, believe me cats are smart and she'll figure out how to get out of them and guess what.... she won't do it again. She'll learn from her mistake, cats are very smart you know. They are meant to be wild animals so they can fend for themselves quite nicely. Don't smother your pet give her some breathing room and a chance to learn how to deal with situations on her own. Good Luck!

Answer 5

You have turned the cat into your baby and acting as though it is a human one. it is right that you want to care for the kitten and keep it from harm but if you have to go out for a couple of hours you should put it in its cage (if its too small get a bigger one) with bedding and food. My friend used to leav e her kittens for hours but there were two of them and they shared a big cage - a sort of large dog pen - which was furnished for them with a bed toys and peeing area in the living room. I suggest you get a bigger cage and possibly another kitten. very soon your kitten will be old enough to go out and explore the big wide world - if you are overprotective you will spoil its life.

Answer 6

One thing that should help is realizing that you were not responsible for what happened to that one kitten. That's because I doubt getting his paw caught under a box could have killed him. He probably had some sort of congenital problem that didn't show up until later. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

Answer 7

Sounds like your boyfriend and his family don't really give a whoot about your kitten. I wouldn't trust your new kitten around them. It sounds like you may need to either find another home for your kitten or perhaps you and your boyfriend should move out and get a place of your own.

Answer 8

They are treating the kitten cruelly, so you are more than justified to be angered by this. Your kitten is a living being and I don't see why they treat her like this. How would they like to be treated the same way? Maybe that is how you should approach your boyfriend about it.

Answer 9

...u scare me. but look if it bothers u that much then moove out of ur bf's house and take the kitten w/ u. get a life. and also if ur not trusting ur bf's family then leave the cat home alone a couple of time gosh it will be fine. GET A LIFE! get a job get some friends. u r scaring me. omg i hope this answers ur question... GOSH!

Answer 10

You are MOST DEFINITELY NOT being over protective.



They are IRRESPONSIBLE people, besides your bf of course.



Anyway, they need to be more respectful of your pet, especially

because it is a living, breathing kitten.

Answer 11

There nothing wrong with being over protective of a kitten there sooooo CUTEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE i lOVE them i just wanna eat them

Answer 12

you are defiantly NOT being over protective

Answer 13

get a job and move out.

Answer 14

yeah its ok but next time please write short thats y no one has answered your question