Question:
Why do we choose relationships with our baby cats when we know they will break our hearts & die before us?
anonymous
2009-02-22 21:12:38 UTC
its been 2 months and I have not stopped crying. I feel so much despair & lonliness that can never be replaced by anything. When he died a big part of me died. time does not heal. I miss him deeply, and painfully cuz i cannot see him, kiss him, hold him, hug him and look into his beautiful eyes and touch his adorable paws or hear the loving sounds of his purr. 16 short years together, he slpet on my bed with me and cuddled me and i rocked him like my baby in my arms everynight until one day he left me unexpectedly to appear 2 days later in spirit and slept on my bed one last night to leave me and break my heart into tiny bits of pieces. My life has changed forever, and i will never be whole as I felt when i was with my baby cat rex.
Seven answers:
old cat lady
2009-02-22 21:19:20 UTC
Your are whole because he left you in body, not in spirit.
Kristen J
2009-02-23 05:20:18 UTC
I really don't know sometimes. I was thinking about this and getting depressed the other night. I'm an animal lover and will always have a few pets in my life... which means I am constantly going to be mourning a loved one, since animals do have such shorter lifespans. :(



I know how you feel. I think most people do. My dog died a few months ago after being part of my family for 17 years... I'd known her longer than my own little brother! I still get sad when I think about her.
Mama C
2009-02-23 05:30:21 UTC
A little over a month ago on a Saturday night, I returned home from Petsmart. I had not seen my cat Lacey all day and got in my car to begin looking for her. I had see her sister Lilly right before I left for Petsmart and did not take her because I had no bigger harness or carrying case. Just as I was about to pull out of my driveway, I saw something that I thought was a trash bag in the ditch. I got out to make sure. I ran over to find my poor Lilly looking up at me trying to pull herself forward with her front legs. She could not move. No vets were open until Monday. I slept with her in the laundry room 2 nights. Her back was broken and her back legs were paralyzed. Her face was scratched and tooth chipped. Sunday night, not wanting to make her wait 5 more hours for the vet to tell us nothing could be done, I got my dad to end her pain. He did not shoot her, but I am not sure what he did. He said she mostly died on her own. Her best friend and sister Lacey was left all alone. I think of her often and am reminded of her by posters and pictures of her in my room and life. Was it worth it? I loved her but wish she could have lived inside. I will never get a cat again that is long-haired and bothers our allergies so that it may live inside. Lacey is often found across the road, which scares me, so I sneak her in all the time. I just fear warm weather when the fleas are crazy. I won't be able to sneak her in anymore. :/

We choose them because others may not.



*She only got to live 8 short months.*
dsz5463
2009-02-23 05:21:44 UTC
I am so sorry, sweetheart. You will always miss him but you are a better person because of the love and caring he brought out in you and even in his passing you have grown and will be able to be more understanding of those who have had a loss. He will always be with you, and in time you will smile again, I promise. The greater the love, the greater the hurt, but the love is always worth it.

You gave him the best life you could so take comfort in that. He is waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge, happy and at peace.
Captain ó Ceallacháin
2009-02-23 05:17:56 UTC
You take them in because they need a home and you can only give them what anybody would hope for, because we all die -- the happiest life possible for however long we are allowed.
Infiniti
2009-02-23 05:19:52 UTC
He will be waiting for you when it's your turn to go home. I know it's so hard and I am so sorry for your lose. Hang in there.
Ban Stupid People Not Dogs!!~~
2009-02-23 06:46:47 UTC
This is a very sad but very good story...please read.



YOU HAVE CHOSEN TEARS





The little orange boy stopped.

Behind him, kitties were playing, chasing each other and

wrestling in the warm sunshine.

It looked like so much fun, but in front of him, through

the clear stillness of the pond's water, he could see his mommy.

And she was crying.

He pawed at the water, trying to get at her, and when

that didn't work, he jumped into the shallow water. All that got him was wet and Mommy's image danced away in the ripples.

"Mommy!" he cried. "Is something wrong?" The little orange boy turned

around.



A lady was standing at the edge of the pond, her eyes

sad but filled with love.

The little orange boy sighed and walked out of the water.

"There's been a mistake," he said. "I'm not supposed to be here."

He looked back at the water.

It was starting to still again and his mommy's image was coming back.

"I'm just a baby. Mommy said it had to be a mistake. She said I wasn't

supposed to come here yet." The kind lady sighed and sat down on the grass.

The little orange boy climbed into her lap.

It wasn't Mommy's lap, but it was almost as good.

When she started to pet him and scratch under his chin like he liked, he

started to purr. He hadn't wanted to, but he couldn't help it.

"I'm afraid there is no mistake. You are supposed to be

here and your mommy knows it deep down in her heart," the lady said.

The little orange boy sighed and laid his head on the lady's leg.

"But she's so sad. It hurts me to see her cry. And daddy too."

"But they knew right from the beginning this would happen."

"That I was sick?"



That surprised the little orange boy.

No one had ever said anything and he had listened when

they thought he was sleeping.

All he had heard them talk about was how cute he was, or

how fast he was or how big he was getting.

"No, not that you were sick," the lady said.

"But you see, they chose tears."

"No, they didn't," the little orange boy argued. Who would choose to cry?

The lady gently brushed the top of his head with a kiss.

It made him feel safe and loved and warm - but he still worried about his mommy.



"Let me tell you a story," the lady said.

The little orange boy looked up and saw other animals gathering around.

Cats - Big Boy and Snowball and Shamus and Abby and little Cleo and Robin.

Merlin and Toby and Iggy and Zachary. Sweetie and Kamatte and OBie.

Dogs too- Sally and Baby and Morgan and Rocky and Belle.

Even a lizard named Clyde and some rats named Saffron and

Becky and a hamster named Odo.

They all lay down near the kind lady and looked up at her, waiting.

She smiled at them and began:



A long long time ago, the Loving Ones went to the Angel

in Charge. They were lonesome and asked the Angel to help them.

The Angel took them to a wall of windows and let them

look out the first window at all sorts of things - dolls and stuffed

animals and cars and toys and sporting events. "Here are things

you can love," the Angel said. "They will keep you from being lonesome."

"Oh, thank you," the Loving Ones said. "These are just what we need."

"You have chosen Pleasure," the Angel told them.



But after a time the Loving Ones came back to the Angel in Charge.

"Things are okay to love," they said. "But they don't care that we love them."

The Angel in Charge led them over to the second window. It looked out at all sorts of wild animals. "Here are animals to love," he said. "They will know you love them."

So the Loving Ones hurried out to care for the wild

animals. "You have chosen Satisfaction," the Angel said.



Some of the Loving Ones worked at zoos and wild animal

preserves, some just had bird feeders in their yards, but after a time they

all came back to the Angel in Charge.

"They know we love them," they told the Angel. "But they don't love us back. We want to be loved in return."

So the Angel took them to the third window and showed

them lots of people walking around, hurrying places.

"Here are people for you to love," the Angel told them.

So the Loving Ones hurried off to find other people to love.

"You have chosen Commitment," the Angel said.



But after a time a lot of Loving Ones came back to the

Angel in Charge.

"People were okay to love," they said. "But sometimes

they stopped loving us and left. They broke our hearts."

The Angel just shook his head. "I cannot help you," he said.

"You will have to be satisfied with the choices I gave you."



As the Loving Ones were leaving, someone saw a window

off to one side and hurried to look out.

Through it, they could see puppies and kittens and dogs

and cats and lizards and hamsters and ferrets.

The other Loving Ones hurried over. "What about these?" they asked.

But the Angel just tried to shoo them away.

"Those are Personal Empathy Trainers," he said.

"But there's a problem with their system operations."

"Would they know that we love them?" someone asked.

"Yes," the Angel said.

"Would they love us back?" another asked.

"Yes," the Angel said.

"Will they stop loving us?" someone else asked.

"No," the Angel admitted. "They will love you forever."

"Then these are what we want," the Loving Ones said.

But the Angel was very upset.



"You don't understand," he told them. "You will have to

feed these animals."

"That's all right," the Loving Ones said.

"You will have to clean up after them and take care of them forever."

"We don't care."

The Loving Ones did not listen. They went down to where

the Pets were and picked them up, seeing the love in their own hearts

reflected in the animals' eyes.



"They were not programmed right," the Angel said. "We can't offer a

warranty. We don't know how durable they are. Some of their systems

malfunction very quickly, others last a long time."

But the Loving Ones did not care.

They were holding the warm little bodies and finding

their hearts so filled

with love that they thought they would burst.

"We will take our chances," they said.

"You do not understand." The Angel tried one more time.

"They are so dependent on you that even the most well-made of them is

not designed to out live you. You are destined to suffer their loss."

The Loving Ones looked at the sweetness in their arms

and nodded.

"That is how it should be. It is a fair trade for the

love they offer."



The Angel just watched them all go, shaking his head.

"You have chosen Tears," he whispered.



"So it is," the kind lady told the kitties.

"And so each mommy and daddy knows. When they take a baby into their heart, they know that one day it will leave them and they will cry."

The little orange boy sat up. "So why do they take us in?" he asked.

"Because even a moment of your love is worth years of pain later."

"Oh."



The little orange boy got off the lady's lap and went back to the edge of the pond. His mommy was still there, and still crying.

"Will she ever stop crying?" he asked the kind lady.

She nodded. "You see, the Angel felt sorry for the

Loving Ones, knowing how much they would suffer. He couldn't take the tears away but he made them special."



She dipped her hand into the pond and let the water

trickle off her fingers.

"He made them healing tears, formed from the special water here.

Each tear holds bits of all the happy times of purring

and petting and shared love.

And the promise of love once again.



As your mommy cries, she is healing. It may take a long

while, but the tears will help her feel better. In time she will be less sad

and she will smile when she thinks of you.

And then she will open her heart again to another little baby."

"But then she will cry again one day," the little orange

boy said.



The lady just smiled at him as she got to her feet.

"No, she will love again. That is all she will think

about."

She picked up Big Boy and Snowball and gave them hugs,

then scratched

Morgan's ear just how she liked.



"Look," she said. "The butterflies have come. Shall we

go over to play?"

The other animals all ran ahead, but the little orange

boy wasn't ready to leave his mommy.

"Will I ever get to be with her again?"

The kind lady nodded.

"You'll be in the eyes of every kitty she looks at.

You'll be in the purr of

every cat she pets. And late at night, when she's fast

asleep, your spirit will snuggle up close to her and you both will feel at

peace.



One day soon, you can even send her a rainbow to tell her you're safe

and waiting here for when it's her turn to come."

"I would like that," the little orange boy said and took

one long look at his mommy.

He saw her smile slightly through her tears and he knew

she had remembered the time he almost fell into the bathtub.

"I love you, Mommy," he whispered. "It's okay if you

cry."



He glanced over at the other pets, running and playing

and laughing with the butterflies.

"Uh, Mommy? I gotta go play now, okay? But I'll be

around, I promise."

Then he turned


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