how do i cope with my cats death?

Question

long story shortened a bit, i was going to school one day and i had went to say goodbye to my cat. i picked up my best friend and unknowingly said my final goodbyes to him. its like he knew he was going to die himself, because he clung to me and licked me on my cheek. i set him down and walked and got into the truck, but nobody managed to see where my cat went. all the sudden i felt a bump, and he was gone... the saddest day of my life. this happened almost 2 months ago... and im stuck in this whole about it. i cant get over him. he was one of the best things that ever happened in my life. Like, the first night i brought him home my parents wouldnt let him run around freely, so he was stuck in a cage for acouple nights. i slept right next to him with my finger in the cage so he knew i was there for those couple of nights. anyways, i cant get over him and i dont think i will. what do i do to ease my pain?

Answer 1

http://www.petloss.com/rainbowbridge.htm



I am so sorry for your loss. It would be impossible for me to tell you how to deal with the loss of your beloved cat because everyone deals with the grief in their own way. I hope you get some comfort from the above website, it is a poem/story about where our beloved companions go when they pass away & us meeting them again one day. It makes me cry everytime I read it and that's about the only thing I could say to you is that if you feel the need to cry then let it go and don't try and keep it inside. Crying is all part of the grief process.

You probably won't ever get over him but you will learn how to deal with him not being with you anymore.

When you are ready to take the step into remembering him during the happy times you might find that helps you but you have to go through the various grief processes before reaching that point.

There may well be a time when you are ready to open your heart and give a home to another cat and if you do please consider getting one from the RSPCA or Cat's Protection because there are always lots of cats and kittens looking for a kind and loving home.

Answer 2

My cat died, I knew she was sick I took her to the vet and there was basically nothing he could do. He said she might have brain cancer or something like that but because she was seventeen whatever was wrong with her the treatment would kill her faster and cause a lower quality of life then just keeping her as comfortable as possible so the cat was spoiled the last couple weeks of her life. One day she just disappeared, I never knew what happened to her body and i was extremely devastated. So I did not get to hold her as she died and sometimes i think well if i never let her out of my sight maybe I would have been there. I don't know you so i can't really give you advice that i know will help, all i can do is tell you what I did. First I cried. I cried forever, I just cried and cried and cried until my eyes were so dry I couldn't cry anymore. and then I was just done crying. Next I got another cat. I was 24 when my `17 year old cat died. it was extremely hard for me to accept that cat was gone because she had been around most of my life. I would come home and look for my kitty and then remember she was gone. Unfortunately because i didn't find her body I had some hope I would find her for a while. Everytime i looked for her and she wasn't there i felt the same pain. Getting a new kitten didn't' replace her, and the new kitten wasn't her, but it did give me a distraction when I came home to look for her or felt like playing with a cat. Remember you did you best to get your cat to the doctor asap. If you would have waited to make sure he was under less stress, he probably would have died anyway, and you would be upset with yourself right now for not trying to get him there faster. you did what anyone else would have done. Trust me the stress of the cat being unable to breath canceled out any stress from the car ride. How else would you have gotten him to the hospital? I'm really sorry for you loss, I hope you forgive youself and realise it really isn't your fault.

Answer 3

Maybe help at an animal rescue group, or foster a cat or kittens. There are so many helpless animals who need assistance, and you could be their helping hand. Or, get a cat or kitten. Be happy for the time you shared with your wonderful kitty. Now, share with another cat and with other people. Don't forget to hang out with your friends, and also talk to them. Cats do things we don't expect. It is VERY cold where we live. Our great, sweet, friendly cat loves to go outside. But, usually not in the cold. (Below 10 degrees last night). This morning, the little grey kitty was NOT in the house. I imagined a little grey ball all frozen. Somehow, he was O.K. We don't know how. But, any one of us could have felt guilty for having let him out (not sure how it happened). We were lucky it turned out positively, but could easily have been different. Try to get past the fact that your cat was a great cat and now you need to either find another one or do other things. Always remember the good things about him. Put a picture up, of him. Wait a little bit and get a kitten.

Answer 4

Ah I'm so sorry about your cat and the way you are feeling, bereavement is bereavement either human or animal. You just need time to grieve. My best pal, my cat died on me also, the pain is still with me four years on, but my vet rang me about 6mths after my cat died to say he had a litter of abandoned kittens, I wasn't sure as I felt a bit disloyal to my old cat well anyway they where three weeks old and I took two of them home and what can I say they are perfect. They bring me such happiness and I now feel that part of my old cat spirit lives in them, so it happened two months ago for you perhaps the spirit of your cat will find its way back to you. Open your heart to a little kitten or cat that needs a good home.



Heal....., take care

Answer 5

Get another cat as a friend, at first you'll think it's just not the same, but it will grow on you, it and time will heal the pain.

Answer 6

It'll take time. Sometimes months. If you get a new cat or dog, you'll get over it even faster.

Answer 7

get a new cat

Answer 8

get a kitten